At the end of episode 2, Laura read a “benediction” to Leslie, that summarized a way to start rejecting “The Idea” of one’s mate and accepting them as they truly are.
We’ve de-personalized it so you can use it as a jumping off point for your own work. Print it out, fill in the blanks, and keep it posted somewhere as a visual inspiration to yourself.
Unvoiced and unmet expectations can lead to resentment.
The happiness and fulfillment of my marriage cannot rest on my hope or
idea of who ________________ should be.
I have to relate to ________________.
I have to allow ________________ to be who ____ IS in the relationship.
Not who I want ____ to be,
or hope ____ will someday be.
I have to be in relationship with ________________ in the here and now.
(Here’s that link to print it, again.)