At the end of episode 2, Laura read a “benediction” to Leslie, that summarized a way to start rejecting “The Idea” of one’s mate and accepting them as they truly are.

We’ve de-personalized it so you can use it as a jumping off point for your own work. Print it out, fill in the blanks, and keep it posted somewhere as a visual inspiration to yourself.


Unvoiced and unmet expectations can lead to resentment. 

The happiness and fulfillment of my marriage cannot rest on my hope or 

idea of who ________________ should be.

I have to relate to ________________.

I have to allow ________________ to be who ____ IS in the relationship. 

Not who I want ____ to be,

or hope ____ will someday be.

I have to be in relationship with ________________ in the here and now.

(Here’s that link to print it, again.)

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